Iron ovaries represent clear determination, voicing your thoughts without an ounce of fear in your heart and living your life without getting trapped in the vicious circle of the society. It means engaging with the world and demanding the respect that you truly deserve.
Men have all the rights and privileges. They are entitled to these from the moment they are born with an extra pair of appendages between their legs. The society still shuns the women if they stand up for themselves. They are accused of being spoilt, disrespectful, cold, self-cantered and ‘non-sanskari.’ The society still cannot accept the women with iron-ovaries.
But having iron ovaries has no relation whatsoever to the image personified by the society as given above. Rather, it represents poise, elegance, self-love, determination and self-honor. The women with ‘ladyballs’ is self-secured and in love with her body, mind and soul. The balance between the iron ovaries and the ladyballs is just like the balance between the yin and the yang.
The concepts of ‘not being seen as a complainer’ and being ‘all nice’ are ingrained so deeply in the women of our country that many-a-times they don’t even realize it’s there. She is still restricted by her own parents from voicing out the pain of being raped by her own uncle in her own ‘protective’ home. The parents still don’t fight for their daughter if she is molested by strangers. The girls are still not allowed to marry the one she loves. Leave out the question of getting married to the person of her choice; they cannot even love the man of her choice. If she commits this horrendous crime of ‘love’, then the parents choose to kill her than compromising with their so-called honor. I wonder what honor they feel after killing the child they gave birth to. Oh my bad! I think they didn’t even want to give ‘her’ birth in the first place.
Women, listen to me. When I was saying the ‘all nice’ things regardless of how I felt, I was getting suffocated and strangulated from inside. Being the Miss Sanskari Nice Girl was stopping me from the true experience of life. It enraged me. It began to show its effect on me physically. The feeling of choking up forced me to consult a doctor. The asphyxiating feeling of the emotions bubbling up inside of me made me fear for my health and life for the first time. Nothing was wrong with me physically was what the doctor said. I was smiling on the outside but swearing under my breath.
The time came when I asked my body of what it needed to feel normal. Little by little it revealed to me that it needed to feel free. I had to stop living the life of inauthenticity and start living the life of self-expression. It was the Miss Sanskari Nice Girl that was killing me from inside out. And I was the one who was letting it happen.
I decided to break free. I needed to grow a pair of ladyballs and iron-ovaries. And when I did, my world changed completely.
Dear Woman, your voice is strong and powerful, let the world listen to it. Speak the truth and you will feel less angry or strangulated. Anger is a natural feeling, so give yourself the permission to feel it and let it out. Eliminate the need to gossip. If you have an issue with someone, go to that person directly and sort it out instead of dragging it over and over again. When you speak the truth, you honor and respect yourself. And that is the most important thing. You need to do self-care in the most sincere and poignant manner.
Don’t get confused between boldness and aggression. Be bold but not aggressive. Explore all your long held dreams and bucket-list wishes like your life depends on it.
The moment I grew a pair of iron-ovaries, I was free. I felt the freedom in my throat.
Dear Women, hold my hand. Stop holding back and grow a pair.
Love and respect yourself. You deserve it.
Note: Image used in this post is only for representational purposes.
