LOVE, isn’t this a strange word which has many definitions? Love even exists between those who can’t speak but just express. Birds, dogs, cats and the list continue. The only difference between animals and human beings is we can express. Express our emotions, while some choose not to express and some express it to two people at a time.
However, there’s one constant thing that never changes, no matter how old we grow; parent’s love. Where your mom would wait for you daily to have that little time while having dinner, where she would feed you when ill, where your dad would lend his bike to you just for one picnic day and your brother would give you an extra share of the pocket money, where your sister would let you in late at night after a party. Love is when you see your parents growing old together and sharing the same bond they shared years ago or even stronger. As we grow, they become our “Relationship Goal”. They set out an example for us to have a partner just like my mom/dad.
But how would one feel if the same hand, which you held to stand up as a child, would stab you? Honor killing, one of the most talked about and petrifying act in India. According to the statistics report, honor killings are mostly practiced in Uttar Pradesh, Haryana and Bihar, if we name a few of them. Doesn’t this bring a shame to our country? Child who’s born out of love and lots of dreams is being killed and it’s called honor. I feel it’s not honor but shame. Shame to the whole new generation that looks upon the older generation. Youth, we say are the people who’ll bring new ideas and changes in the country. But will this ever happen if acts like these are ever stopped by the older generations?
Haryana, a state of India where wrestlers like Babita Kumari and Geeta Phogat have bloomed to bring pride to the nation, little did we know about their journey, but the fact is that their father would encourage them to wrestle and practice with the men, who were specialist in wrestling. He was the one who had encouraged them to what they are now. However, the other side of the coin is that there are some fathers who kill their daughters because they loved someone of different caste, religion or gotra (which they say in Haryana). There are brothers, mothers who forget about their blood relation and just take a step out with guns and vexation.
Uttar Pradesh, Bihar and many other states of the country are going through this honor killing, reasons yet to be unknown; but the solution lies in the society and their thinking. No one blame the education of the people practicing this act but the thinking of the society that has bound them in that small little bubble.
Everybody is aware of the Noida double murder case of 2008 and the things thereafter. But has anyone thought about the cause of murder other than honor killing? The answer is no, because that’s the very obvious thing to be concluded by the proceedings and the trials that were conducted so far. Even Avirook Sen couldn’t find the exact reason behind the murder, also because honor killing is being practiced so often and so openly that everyone is used to it.
We have seen the famous Bollywood movie, NH7 under Anushka Sharma’s production house. This, I feel is the greatest example we can give about honour killing. They have clearly shown the true situation of the northern states of the country. The police appointed are also a part of the society and no one can expect them to against the society.
I just want to tell everyone out there that it’s not who we choose to love and spend the entire life with, it’s who we connect to, who we can understand us and who we can trust. It’s not always necessary we love someone of the same religion or caste; it’s how much we love them. Love has no boundaries and love can’t be only between people of same species. Humans kiss to express love, peacocks dance to express love, a dog licks your face to express love while a penguin searches for the most beautiful pebble to give it to his love and express his love. Different ways of expressing love, but one thing that brings us all together is love. The feeling of being in love, the feeling of being loved by someone is the feeling of happiness. Love is to be celebrated. Hence, a day like Valentine’s Day is celebrated and a person like cupid is believed.
