My choice! So my country is currently dealing with the trauma of My Choice. Feminism, Anti-men, infidelity, anti-rapists, women empowerment and god knows what other terms can be related to it. Deepika Padukone looks ethereally gorgeous and so do the other women. The message of the video was clear and sound and loud. But as we all know India is the largest democracy and how can the largest democracy not have different voices and thoughts? A land where people who worship women as well who wrong women – in short a land of hypocrites not twist this matter again? Sometimes I wonder Is India really developing? We all are getting education, but as a matter of fact, we are just grabbing ourselves an A4 size degree but are we really literates?
So being back to the video, there were really bold lines in it which at once shelled out on our huge nation. Difficult to digest, people are squabbling. I mean, what was wrong with the video. The motive of Vogue was not to be anti-men, not to be feminist. It was actually pointing out the reality that existed in our lives and we just ignored to look at it or just cover it up with our vague societal excuses. Let us take down the points in video one on one.
- SIZE ZERO OR SIZE 15.
That’s a harsh truth. It not only exists in India but across the world. A girl with a flab is looked upon as a criminal.
Best example –Sonakshi Sinha, Zarine Khan, Kareena Kapoor(before she was a zero figure), Vidya Balan and many more. How many of us have not criticized sonakshi in social media when she gave a shot in wet saree in a pool of water? Comments were horrible. Vidya balan in Dirty Picture. Kareena –poor her. No doubt she took it so personally that she did not appear on-screen for nearly two years and when she did, she really pulled out many jaws. But in fact she was criticized once again by the public for going skinny. I mean does it really matter? Forget about stardom life. Common girls with extra flab in college, office n day-to-day life get horribly teased. They are named AUNTY and what so ever. My point is if you are not like Ranveer singh or Hrithik Roshan or Tom Cruise or let us say Aishwarya Rai or Priyanka Chopra, who are you to comment on her flabs and name her Aunty?
- DRESSING SENSE.
Now a topic to touch and definitely a sweet point, dressing sense problem exists in major point of the planet. I am supposed to wear a saree or jeans or skirt or bikini- it’s my choice. Whether I look fat or pretty, my curves flaunted or my flab hanging it’s my decision. If I am suppose to wear a saree then hell it is that you wear a Dhoti. Every Indian girl loves to wear a saree but with cons of wearing it, it’s the same as much difficult for you to carry on a dhoti. I paint my hair red, blonde, blue – you are none to make a choice whether I look pretty or ugly and this comment I make it for both the gender. The fact that a soul is like an expanding universe and one trying to cover it with the drapes of cotton and silk is like trying to cover sunlight in your palm. It goes for both men and women. I mean just think about it for once.
- HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE OR AFTER MARRIAGE OR SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE OR TO NOT HAVE SEX AT ALL.
So Vogue did not wanted to spread a message regarding loyalty in relationship but definitely pointed out many problems and facts that exist in our country. Since many people are busy commenting on deepika padukone’s take on her Ex- love Ranbir Kapoor let me pen down some points which I think she wanted to say to people.
- Men want a virgin wife but they are nowhere near the line of being a virgin.
- As per the fact extra-marital affairs are not only in India but exist across the world. So rather than pointing out on loyalty its better we see the side where many men have an affair outside the marriage but a women can neither think about it. It’s a choice of both men and women with whom they want to have sex with. Strange but I live in a country where having a secret affair is acceptable but separating out and living a better life with a mutual understanding is a crime because of society police.
- No one questions the guy whether he is a virgin but if a girl has lost her virginity before marriage she is named characterless by our moral police and also if she lies about it, her character is judged based on the bleeding of her vagina during sex.
The matter here pointed was not loyalty in a relationship but it was for definitely the hypocrite mindset of people who declare a raped woman as a victim based on two-finger test and virginity of a girl relies upon the hymen of her vagina.
- HAVING CHILD OR NOT- MY CHOICE
Do we have any idea of how many women across the country undergo a forced pregnancy just to have a male child? Female feticide is declared a crime. Finding out whether it’s a boy or girl is a punishable act but did this stop us from gender biasing? People might have given up on killing a girl child but their mindset of having a boy is not changed yet. Rural India is a major victim of this. They might not kill a baby girl but definitely the price is paid by the mother. She is taken as a production machine and is forced to get pregnant till she gives baby boy. Do you have any idea what it’s like to give birth to a baby? The labor pains? And the beautiful 9 months of a pregnant woman where she is even scared of a slight jerk that might harm the life inside her?
So my dear Indian public, rather than taking out the point of X and Y chromosomes and the family planning equality, deal with the matter of what was actually portrait in the video.
- FEMINISM
Oops. I shouldn’t have touched this topic. It’s the most controversial. More like a celebrity though. What is feminism? I don’t think half of the country has understood it. Feminism is about equality. Equality for women in all regards. And all the points which were put in the video made exactly every sense of having a feminist attitude there. Woman is judged by her clothes, size, her boob size, her hymen, her profession, her attitude towards sex, outspoken nature, if she takes alcohol and many more. The list goes on. So before any man or woman tries to question on the feminist wave going across, let me put it on for you in a layman English language – are you really supporting equality among men and women?
The point is not to fight over what you said and think. The point is to understand what really a woman wants. The nature has not made men and women to compete against each other but to complete each other. To walk along with equality to each other. Just because men do not have a blessing to give birth doesn’t mean that they are inferior. They are equally responsible for the process to go on and so does a woman. A professional woman is not an office slut. She is competent and capable. She is far beyond reach and has a dream to live, to be successful. Infidelity is not only in men. It’s even in women. So a man worries equally about his partner just the same as a woman. A man is tough but he is soft inside just like a woman. Heart does not differentiate. Neither does the emotions and feelings. They don’t judge or bias on gender. Humanity is same for both men and women.
Our history might be what it was. But forcing the same in present is sign of foolishness. It’s the same kind that we punish the present English men for what their ancestors did. But are we punishing them? We have accepted them. We have competed them and proved our capability. This is what a woman is doing. She has proved herself again and again and now it’s time that we accept her and help her in establishing herself. Rather than making it a competition, let us turn it into a development.
The choice is ours. But let’s not twist the speech and turn it into a dirty meaningless argument.
