Cheating in a relationship is never ‘casual’: Here are some things which we miss behind ‘casual’

Why do committed people stray?

The reality based Crime-series on television is a two-edged weapon. While it keeps us watchful on what all can go wrong around or with us, they may also render us wary of just about anyone around us. It was one of the heart-wrenching episodes I recently watched on ‘Saavdhan India- India Fights Back’ that activated my introspection-mode. The episode was about a woman who justified her philandering ways to her husband on grounds of her loneliness as he was always pre-occupied with his work.

Are human-beings naturally programmed to be promiscuous?

When we agree to a committed relationship, we directly take ownership of the sensibilities of our partner. We aren’t in there just for our personal security but it’s about making things unconditional in this fickle domain. In this world where bottom-lines always reiterate business, we construct a home on trust and mutual reliance. It’s beyond comprehension to decipher the magnitude of pain when someone so-committed decides to change the rules of the game.

How casual is ‘Casual’?

When people cheat, calling it a casual fling, they jeopardize the very soul of their committed partners. It’s an irreparable- irreversible step which once taken cannot be undone. It’s mind-stirring to then understand why would someone cheat and risk it all?

Infidelity scars your innocence forever

Nothing is more traumatic than to find your partner playing foul. When we trust, we give in our heart and souls to a relationship. One may walk out on a person in said scenario but does that actually heal the wounds? Such an experience can make, strongest of people, dead-cold from inside and they may never be able to count on anyone in future.

Infidelity is not gender-driven

It’s not just men who cheat! It’s about someone’s intent in a relationship! And it hurts both men and women equally. This particular episode showed a wife who cheated on her husband, and was that any less painful?

Can you forgive infidelity of your partner and still decide to give him/her a second chance?

One may make this brave attempt, for family or other reasons, but something that has been broken between the couple would always pinch. Is it worth it? As we grow in a relationship, we are not there alone; we have family and children who are tied to each and everything we do. Kids from broken families are never able to have a normal thriving EQ-development. For their sake we may decide not to call-it-quits but that innocence may actually never return.

Now is it still worth it?

 My take-

It’s better to walk-out on a relationship than to double-deal.

If you feel you not motivated enough to make things work, stay honest and acknowledge it. It’s always in the best interest of everyone involved to come out clean. If you cannot stay unswerving, it’s prudent to admit it now then to have to nurse broken hearts later. Yes this will hurt your partner but in the longer run, it’s the best thing for both the parties involved.

Time heals everything and world doesn’t stop for anyone, so this too shall pass!